How it all ended

It would figure.

Right when I decide that I am going to get serious about blogging and actually do it, I mean I updated my background and added pages and everything, that my world would come crashing down on me.

Last night, our dreams of becoming a parent to a little boy due on Valentine's Day ended.

Our birth mom (BM), who is 15, told her parents that she was going to parent this baby.

Her parents and her older sister that we are friends with (she is my age, her boyfriend is Matt's age) pleaded on our account.  They explained to her how she had been dishonest and deceitful and manipulative.    Our BM's reply?  She didn't care.  They asked her how she could let this have gone on for so long?  I mean, we have been involved with this pregnancy since her 1ST MONTH.  She told her parents that she never once agreed to this adoption.  Lies.  Every single time I saw this girl she always referred to the baby growing in her as "your baby," "your son," etc.  She even told me that she didn't want for us to introduce the baby to her until he was like 5 years old.  She never once even acted like she was remotely interested in the pregnancy or the baby.

She told her parents that her current boyfriend of 2 months is the baby's father (even though she is 7 months pregnant) and that she has been lying to us the entire time about who the dad is - she previously told us it was another boy and has stuck to the story all along up until last night.  We all believe this to be a lie, that maybe she doesn't even know who the baby's father is.

Her dad called the boyfriends house to speak to him, to plead our case as well.  The boyfriends mom got on the phone and he told her how involved we are, how there are already attorneys involved on both sides, how we already have a name picked out, how we have bought toys, clothes, diapers.  Her response was, "We don't believe in abortion or adoption.  We will care for the baby."  He said if that was the route they were going then he would press charges on her son (he is much older than our BM).  She replied with, "Go ahead, you don't have the money for the charges anyway," and hung up.

They are all since avoiding our phone call with the exception of BM's sister and her boyfriend and they just called us to tell that our BM ran away last night and they have no idea where she is.  Cleaned her room out and is gone.  They have reported her missing to the police but for right now she is just another runaway.

A 15 year old runaway pregnant with a baby ... a baby that we prayed over, prayed for, and thought was going to be our chance at being a family of three.  I feel like such a fool.